About
I am a step-mother to four children. My husband and his ex share custody 50/50. I tell my kids how lucky they are that they get to spend so much time with each of their parents because so many children are not so lucky.
This blog is to help those that are not so lucky and help more children be lucky.
I don’t leave my name because this is not about me. This is about the children.
Please remember children don’t want to choose. They have enough love for everyone.
Because the issue of shared-parenting and equal rights for both fathers and mothers relates to gender issues I will post on gender issues not related to parenting and divorce.
The gender issues are because I want my sons to have the same options as my daughters. The more I see the more fearful I am for my sons.
Did you know:
- 93% of workplace deaths are men
- Boys are less likely to attend college-57% of college students are female
- Mothers get sole custody in 90% of divorces
- Men have limited reproductive rights
- Unmarried fathers can have their child adopted without their consent
- Men can be tricked into raising another man’s child and if found out too late he still is financially responsible
- The other side of the above coin is a man can have a child and never know about it unless and until the mother tells him
- There is little help for abused men and they may be arrested if the police are called due to primary aggressor laws
- There is little to no help for male survivors of sexual assault including young boys and teens assaulted or raped by adult women
- Teen male children of women who domestically abused cannot stay with their family
- Only men have to register for the draft and make up the majority of casualties.
- Men are 75% of suicides
- Men make up 80% of the homeless
- Men get harsher sentences for the same crime
- Men make up 90% of the prison population
- Men are more likely to be victims of violence
- Men are more likely t be victims of false accusations of sexual assault or violence
- Women live longer but female-specific health research gets 9 times the funding that male-specific health research gets
These boys and men are invisible to most people. They largely suffer silently. The media prefers to focus on the girls and women even if they are the minority.
I find it particularly offensive that there are organizations (some taking my tax dollars) that help only women when there are also men who need help.
- How can you say you want to end homelessness if your organization only address 20% of the homeless population?
- How can you say you want to help prisoners if your organization only address 10% of the prisoner population?
- How can you say you want to end violence if you only address a subset of violence?
Do you know who made this recording? I have a musician friend that would like to help the kids put it to music if they are interested and he would record it.
Such a perfect message to share with the world! So nice to work with both of you last week and I look forward to continuing to share our resources for the sake of children and divorce…and yes, I cried too when I watched the video. AND I also smiled because I know I am doing whatever it takes to make sure my divorce honours my children first.
Thank you for your comments! I appreciate knowing that it does touch people.
Hi Katrina, it’s been a lot of years. It’s wonderful that your husband and his ex can share custody in such a manner and bring the kids up in a loving environment.
Amanda has a son and 3 step-daughters with her boyfriend. She and Eddie are bringing them up in a loving way, and unfortunately, can’t share with the biological mother. Perhaps you should contact her for that story, which is not mine to tell.
I hope all is well with you.
Best regards,
Mike